My wife recently told me the story about the time she was going through during a difficult part in her in life. She was at the point of making a life-changing decision when she went through the drive-thru at Taco Bell and ordered a burrito. At some point the burrito fell apart and into her lap which was the push she needed to make her decision.
If you live long enough, you will reach that point when a “burrito” falls into your lap which nudges you into the direction you need to go.
If you are like me, you will quietly take things for much longer you should and then reach your breaking point. Each person’s moment is different. When that breaking point is reached, there is no going back.
I reached that moment when my spirit was totally crushed by comments that pushed me to the point of making a change in my life. I didn’t like the life I was living. At one point I remember hearing a statement in a movie that asked: “Are you ready to be who you are?”
I was and I made the change. I burned a lot of bridges in doing it but I’m a better person today because of it. Sometimes there isn’t a “plan” to do it, you just do it and you follow the path with each step you take. Prayer is important but you also make decisions the best that you can with the information you have.
You can’t always depend on your friends, family or co-workers to have your back. They won’t. In my case, the people I thought would say the most or do the most – didn’t do a damn thing. I expected a backlash that didn’t happen. I chose the fork in the road and have been on it ever since that “burrito” moment.
Here are seven things to remember when making life changing decisions:
You have the power to make decisions. You are the only one that can make the decision. Other people can’t make it for you. Advice is good but only if they truly know you.
Go with your gut not with your guilt. Sometimes we choose not to make a decision because we are afraid. Even if you make a mistake, you will adjust and learn from it.
Don’t be a chicken. If you make a decision – do it. Don’ t look back or hang on to the decision you didn’t make.
Tell others about your decision. This will help you to stick to it. Not that you need their approval but you will be more committed to it if you tell others.
Learn from your past decisions.
Be flexible. It won’t always turn out exactly as you think. Be prepared to adjust.
Pray, meditate or do whatever you do to have moments when you are silent. Quiet your mind. Remove distractions that will keep you from being focused.
You don’t need a detailed GPS for your decision, you just need to get in the car and get started. I think many times we are much too concerned about disappointing others than we are in disappointing ourselves. That part was always a huge insecurity for me until I realized that I was trying to make everyone else happy while I was totally miserable. At that point when my spirit was broken, I realized all the times I was too chicken to do anything about it until that moment.
Not making a decision is STILL a decision. It is an endless, frustrating cycle of procrastination until you drop the burrito in your lap.