It hurts right to the heart. It may be a family member, a spouse or someone you thought were your friend. Whoever it is, it’s a difficult thing to overcome.
God understands this pain. It’s probably a good thing that He never gave us the ability to throw fireballs at people who wrong us or we would certainly be tempted to us it. He’s also a God that won’t usually hurt the person that has hurt us.
Most people want to immediately plot their revenge or be tempted to talk about the person who wronged you. It’s very difficult not to. We usually feel that we have some sort of right but we really don’t. The Bible says to turn the other cheek (Matthew 5:39) but you know that’s not so comforting when we are fresh from the betrayal.
The best medicine for being “stabbed in the back” as we call it – is to let God heal us. And exactly how is He able to heal us?
First we need to take it to Him. Vent to Him about what happened. Sit quietly and regroup. If you retaliate then you are usually the one who looks worse in the end.
Silence works. Just don’t fuel it and don’t repay something wrong with doing something wrong. God knows your hurt.
Listen to spiritual songs that speak to you. Many times in the past one song that I always go to is “Made Me Glad” by Hillsong. I like the chorus when it says:
“You are my shield, my strength, my portion, deliverer, my shelter, strong tower. My very present help in time of need.”
Sometimes it’s hard to pray or talk to God about our hurt. He also understands our tears. Our tears speaks words that we can not say verbally.
Perhaps the hardest thing to do is to do good to people who do us wrong. It’s never easy to just eat it and press on. Even more is when the wrongdoers act like they haven’t done anything wrong in the first place. We want to hold people accountable for their actions but the reality is that people do get away with things. Their actions go unchecked and their betrayals are never repaid. If we don’t recover then we will find ourselves stuck reliving the betrayal and continue to be hurt.
I have often been stuck on the verse that says God is our ever present help in time of need. (Psalm 46:1) I often read that as meaning God will fight back for me but it doesn’t mean that at all. It means He will be present to help me and heal me. He gives me a chance to take a timeout from the situation.
I am not one that agrees we should make allowances for someone else’s bad behavior. I have a hard time letting go when someone needs to be held accountable. Life just doesn’t always even the score and it’s hard to accept that. The longer something like this lingers, the harder it is to get over it.
Somehow, some way we have to rise above the betrayal. If someone hurts us we have to be good at taking the hit and continue living. The emotional wounds may heal but sometimes they will leave scars. The scars serve as a reminder that we live in an imperfect world with hurting people.
God’s got your back. He knows all about betrayal and pain.