I will start out with a warning for you…this blog is going to be a little sappy.
Today is Valentine’s Day and it is the day when we express our love to someone special in our lives. I know, I know, this day is over commercialized. Roses cost a fortune today. Jewelry stores love this day. I still remember the times in elementary school when we would have envelopes on the wall and we would put cards in the envelopes for our classmates. I would always save the best card for the girl I liked. Sadly, they would never return the favor. Yep, I was the one that got the “Goofy” card. I wasn’t very smooth in the 4th grade that’s for sure.
Things are different now. Today it is about the love. Well, for me it is.
You see, the reason it is a happy day for me is that I found that one true love people talk about and movies are made about. I have that happily ever after and I’m living it with my wife, Crystal, today.
It wasn’t always this way. I have had many miserable Valentine’s Days in the past. I remember how dreadful it was to look at the hundreds of cards and finding it difficult to get the right now because – honestly – I wasn’t feeling it. Not for a long time. When you are with the wrong person, life is pretty miserable. I hated my life. It wasn’t much fun to be me.
I met Crystal in high school but lost touch with her for over 30 years until we re-connected on Facebook. Both of our marriages were over and we were broken people. The first time I heard her voice on the phone she had me. No question about it. It was a magical moment. After years apart, our souls connected. We found what we were missing when we found each other. We had no trouble saying “I love you” in fact, it took incredible restraint NOT to say it. We just knew. It has been an amazing experience. People have criticized me for going after the fairy tale and believing in a happily ever after. That’s okay. Those critics can stay in their miserable marriages and enjoy playing the lead role in their life’s drama.
Do I believe in true love? Absolutely. Soulmates? I do because I found mine. I know people like to toss around that term. Soulmates. People scoff at that too. You mean there is one person out there for everyone? Well, I can’t say that about everyone. I can only say it for me. Crystal has made me a better man and gave me another chance at being a better husband. You see, I wasn’t a good husband before. I failed at it. That’s what happens when you are living in the wrong life.
The moment I saw Crystal, I knew.
A fairytale sometimes doesn’t happen without the rough parts leading to it. I went through that rough part. I just didn’t know where it was leading to. Sure, I wish I had gotten it right the first time and made the right choice in my early 20s but that’s not how it happened in my story. I’m not proud of that part but my years of sorrow was turned into joy. I did that. I found her. Now I am living the life I was always destined to live. My own family, former friends and co-workers can have their judgment about it. They didn’t live my life. It’s easy to judge something you don’t know or haven’t experienced yourself.
I stepped into the life of the real me when Crystal entered my life. I lived in fear in my previous life. Constant pressure to measure up to everyone’s expectations and the fear of letting people down. That stuff will kill you. It nearly did. I found a new life with Crystal and now I have my happily now. Everyday. So forgive me if I’m a little sappy on Valentine’s Day. You don’t know my journey.
Sure, call me a romantic. I am not ashamed of that admission. When you have found it, you know it. When you get to that happily ever after you just know. No one has to tell me.
We don’t live in a fantasy world. We still deal with every day life just like everyone else. We have to work jobs and deal with the pressures of finances and all the rest but the difference is that we have each other. The Bible calls the person our “help meet” and Crystal is that to me. She is always on my side and my biggest supporter. You can’t imagine how huge that is.
Serendipity is finding something good without looking for it. My life found that serendipity. Today I celebrate my happily now.