Recently a situation occured when I called out someone for doing something wrong. I hate to witness an injustice or someone who thinks they are above the rules. When I corrected this person, they proceeded to fuss me out about it. The offender was offended that I called them out on their offense.
Confusing? Yes, it is.
Sadly this is the time we live today. This is the time when you can’t enforce the rules or correct anyone. The strong wall of pride keeps people from owning up to their mistakes and move on. Instead they would rather turn it around on you and make you feel bad for making them accountable for their actions.
And then there’s the gun issue.
I’m not going to debate the gun issue because I know each side is adamant about their views and will attack you for believing the opposite of what they believe – however – you can’t hold people accountable anymore because they will think nothing of pulling out a gun and shooting you. It doesn’t matter whether they are right or wrong. There are too many people out there who have little or no regard for lives. They will use a gun quicker than trying to reason out a difference. Regardless of how you stand on the gun issue you only have to watch the news to see how easily people resort to their guns to resolve their conflict.
One of the places most of us deal with this is on the roads. Road rage incidents have increased and people will pull over and want to fight you if you call them out or blow your horn at their infraction. It’s a crazy world out there. How is it that the offending party refuses to take responsibility for anything?
This week I had to apologize for confronting a neighbor for blocking MY driveway. The confrontation got heated as I got fed up with the complete inconsiderate act by the neighbor while I reminded the neighbor that what they had done was in violation of community rules yet I had to apologize for my reaction to it. Did you follow that? Yeah it gets a little confusing.
I don’t get it.
Our society today seems to be too prideful to admit to doing anything wrong. Just say “I’m sorry” or a “my bad” and move on. None of us are perfect. Quit the fussing. It’s not worth it.
I have never seen it as bad as it is now. It’s an epidemic. The pride flu has spread like the plague. So what can we do to handle these moments of injustice? I know that the Bible says to “turn the other cheek” but when you’ve already done that then what?
The easy answer is to let it go. That’s not easy. We have to be wise in picking our battles. I still think we should speak up when we need to do so. Sometimes the situation calls for it but if things escalate beyond what it should be, we should also have the strength and ability to calm things down. As the old country song goes: “Know when to hold’em and know when to fold’em.”
Here are some things that might help in dealing with these situations:
- Ask yourself if it’s worth it to confront the offender. It’s important to identify the situation and whether or not your confrontation is justified.
- Stay calm. Keeping cool will keep the situation from turning on you.
- Avoid personal insults. Stay on the subject of the offense.
- Know when to back down. Sometimes you’re just not going to win. Backing down isn’t weakness it is intelligence.
- Notify the appropriate authorities. You don’t always have to resort to calling the police but you can address some situations through other authorities.
If you or I are the offender and someone calls us out on something, let’s remember that side of it too. Either apologize and move on or try to calmly explain your situation if there was a reason you took the action you did. A soft answer to when we have been called out usually turns out a whole lot better than flipping someone off or ignoring the offense. We are all human and we all have these moments when we are either the offender or the victim of the offense.