When Your Day Gets Screwed Up

Yesterday I discovered a screw in our tire. It changed my entire day. I had plans that were altered by a metal screw on the road.

I didn’t fuss at God about it but I was very frustrated and unhappy about the situation. I am human just like everyone else so I didn’t exactly sing a song.

I really didn’t have time to think, I went into action mode. I changed the tire to the temporary spare and took the tire to the nearest tire store. I had more bad news when I was told that the tire could not be repaired and my other three tires also needed to be replaced. I didn’t have $700 in the budget for new tires. It’s not something you enjoy spending money on. Unless you are a car person, buying tires doesn’t exactly spark joy.

In the hours I had to wait, I had a chance to wind down from action mode and settle my anxieties about the whole thing. I had a chance to be thankful even when it screwed up my day. At least the flat tire didn’t leave us stranded somewhere on the road or result in a dangerous blowout. I was thankful that it didn’t happen to my wife either. Although it screwed up my day, the timing worked out in spite of the inconvenience of it.

It is often difficult to deal with the unexpected things that happen to us. Some folks want to immediately get mad at God. God doesn’t do stuff to us. Sometimes we just simply drive over a screw in the road which was dropped by some construction worker. Stuff happens. I don’t think there is anything spiritual about that.

I’m definitely not the model example of how to handle a screwed up day. My mind is always planning so when something unplanned happens, it temporarily throws me until I can adjust to it. It’s not always easy and I wish I handled these times better.

The Bible tells us not to be anxious about things and let God’s peace rule our hearts and minds. Well, that’s a nice thought and so easy to say when you aren’t going through something. You feel a bit scrambled and unsettled. I don’t think I’m ever going to be the person that is so holy that I can keep a calm attitude with my hands in a praying position when crappy things happen. I do think that the peace eventually settles us down.

So maybe the day didn’t go as planned. Perhaps I can learn something from it. It is certain that I can do a better job tapping into that peace.

When your day gets screwed up, remember that God isn’t mad at you. Do what you can to adjust quickly to the change and realize that there are things which we can’t control. That’s just life. We have to remain grateful in the midst of strife and discontent. No, it isn’t easy but it is certain we will have opportunities that will test us.


Where Is God When…?

bad thingsThere is no doubt we have all asked some form of this question in our life.

God doesn’t spare us just because we are believers.

It’s very hard to believe when things are going wrong and you are hurting.

Just because we do good deeds doesn’t guarantee a God will “pay us back” in times of trouble. He said to lay up your treasures in Heaven.  In Matthew 6:19-20 He tells us we should store our treasures in heaven and not on Earth.  While that is well and fine for eternity, sometimes we would like Him to withdraw a little of that when we are going through the bad times in our lives.  When a hurricane blows away our home or when our loved one is diagnosed with cancer.

Where is God?

That is a question we all ask during these times.  It is difficult to see Him in the bad times.  He says that He never leaves us or forsakes us but He can certainly be quiet.  It would seem that He is playing some kind of cosmic game of hide and seek.  It can be very annoying to serve God during these times.  He is apparently doing something for our purpose.  He never leaves us but at times He is silent. Not because He’s playing some game of hide and seek with us but to help us in some way.

Ever notice that the only time people seem to come together is when disaster strikes? Why does it take that for us to come together?

Why is it that God heals some people while He allows others to die? Why does He allow destruction to hit some people and not others? Those are some heavy questions and when you are going through those seemingly unfair times you don’t feel much like singing those cute praise and worship songs. You want to fuss and demand answers.

I won’t sugar coat this for you. God seems cruel sometimes. The problem is that no one can answer for why God does what He does. That’s kinda why He’s God. He does what He does for His own reasons. He doesn’t owe us an explanation and we hate that. We can’t fully understand God’s plans or His ways.

We lose sight of the fact that this world is not the end. The Bible says

“We do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal”

Yes, but I’m dealing with something here on Earth right now today!

I would like to say that I stay cool and calm when facing the bad things that happen in my life.  It would be nice to be the example of calm and patience with my hands in a praying position during these times but I’m not.  I often fuss and complain to God about them.  I’m doing better in some situations but I have, in no way, mastered it yet.  I have heard people talk about the “patience of Job” when everything was going against him but have you ever read the Book of Job?  He may have been patient in that he continued to trust God but the man did complain and fuss about the situation.  God even called him out on it in Chapter 38 of Job.  God kind of puts Job in his place.

So, it doesn’t matter how good of a Christian you think you are or how many people is on your prayer chain.  God isn’t impressed by that.  No one can give you and answer as to why God goes silent sometimes when bad things happen to us.  It isn’t about being spiritual or speaking in tongues or being any kind of faith superstar.  The important thing is for us to keep our focus and be faithful.  Really, there isn’t much of a choice.  It’s okay to be frustrated and upset.  God understands that but we have to deal with whatever is allowed to happen to us.

There is a God and we aren’t Him.  He doesn’t tell us everything.  That’s the thing which frustrates us.  We have to trust an unknown situation in our lives to the God who knows everything.