Tag: encouragement

Help Wanted: Be An Encourager

People need to be encouraged. This is something that everyone of us have the ability to do. You don’t need any special training to encourage someone. The challenge is in actually doing it.

We live in a world that is selfish and quick to anger. Examples of this appears in our news every day. Shootings, assaults and random acts of violence dominate the headlines. This world is in desperate need of some superheroes. The world need encouragers.

So how can we do this?

  • Look for ways to help someone in need. If it’s a hot day and you see a worker outside, give them a bottled water. If someone needs help, help them.
  • Smile. It’s amazing how just a smile can do so much good.
  • Treat people with respect. Be patient with the cashier or the person working behind the counter at a fast food restaurant. If they do something good, compliment them for it. We are too quick to complain but forget to compliment.
  • Treat someone. Buy an extra coffee for someone or something someone would appreciate. If you know someone likes a certain treat, surprise them with it.
  • Say “Thank You”. Don’t act like you are entitled. Be thankful.
  • Be a good listener. Some people just want someone who will listen to them and their stories. They also want someone they can trust who won’t spread gossip.
  • Tell people that you appreciate them. Don’t assume people know. Tell them.
  • Pay it forward. This has been a trend and a good way to encourage others.

Sometimes just a word of encouragement can change someone’s entire day. Encouragement is the most direct way you can impact someone’s life.  There are too many people that are quick to criticize.  There are people we all come in contact with that could use an uplifting word or deed.  We should look for opportunities to do good and build up, not tear someone down.

Being an encourager is not something super spiritual and you don’t have to wait on a sign from God to do it. It is never wrong to encourage someone to do good. When you encourage someone it will say much more than quoting a list of Bible verses.

The purpose of encouraging others isn’t to bring attention to ourselves. Sometimes doing something anonymously is the appropriate thing to do and sometimes the most fulfilling.

Do you know someone who needs some compassion today? Is there someone who would benefit from your words of encouragement? None of us know how long we have to make a difference in another person’s life. Make the most of the opportunities God gives you. When you are offering encouragement to others you are being God to them.

“Be an Encourager: When you encourage others, you boost their self-esteem, enhance their self-confidence, make them work harder, lift their spirits and make them successful in their endeavors. Encouragement goes straight to the heart and is always available. Be an encourager. Always.”   Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

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Do I Really Matter?

lonely-man-on-benchI’m sure you have experienced this situation before – you are in a group of people that you haven’t met before and someone asks this question:

So what do you do?

Then it begins. Based upon your answer to that question you are classified and categorized.

I don’t think that’s really fair do you?

My job or what I do isn’t who I am.

Most of us have had times where we ask ourselves if we matter. I certainly have. We wonder whether or not we are making a difference in our lives.

Although I am very thankful to have a job, I get tired of the routine. Sunday evenings I have to fight off the impending Monday blues.

While others may classify or judge us on the work we do or what degree we hold, that is not who we are. God certainly doesn’t look at us that way. I have witnessed people in the church address others as Doctor or Most Holy Reverend and it sickens me. Sorry, but I have to be honest here. God doesn’t care about the titles so why should we? A person who works flipping burgers is just as important to God as the person who has attended college multiple years. God looks at us each individually and we absolutely matter to Him.

The Bible tells us that we are inscribed on the palm of his hand. (Isaiah 49:16) Now that’s pretty special isn’t it?

So what does that tell us? It means that God is interested in us and cares about our lives.

We matter to Him. Each one of us has the opportunity to impact others every day. Whether it is a co-worker, a child or a stranger we can invest in someone’s life. That’s what our purpose is. God never said that getting a doctorate degree in theology was what mattered to Him the most. People matter to Him. How we treat others is the most important thing.

Quite often I work with people who are unfiltered in their comments. Their words can affect the course of my day if I let it. It’s very difficult not to respond the same way and, honestly, it takes enormous resolve to respond the right way and have the soft answer to turn away their wrath.

Okay, so you aren’t the CEO of a Fortune 500 company but you still matter.  Whether you are a stay-at-home parent or work for a large corporation,  you matter.  You have the opportunity each day to invest in people.  Sometimes you can make or break someone’s day.  This is where you can be the difference matter.  I have had times in my life where I have honestly moaned and complained to God about the people I have to work with or some of the personalities that do not agree with mine but in those situations I have had to realize that I can still make a difference.  Even if we are put in a difficult situation, we can still matter to someone.

We are encouraged to do our jobs and whatever we do as if we are doing it for the Lord.  Yeah, I know.  That’s really hard to do sometimes when your supervisor is less than ideal or shows their lack of integrity.  We can’t look at them.  We can’t control them.  We can control us and what we do.

Sometimes we don’t seem to matter to people around us but we always matter to God.  He cares about everything that happens to us.  I have always heard that He has a plan for us – and he does.  Sometimes we get off the track He has planned for us but if we are sincere and seek His will, He will re-direct us back to where we need to be.  I know some folks believe that God has predestinated every choice and everything in our lives.  Some believe that He already knows the end.  They forget the power of our own free will.  Yes, God knows where we are going to end up if we stay on the course we are going but things in life change and we are totally able to use our free will to change that course.  I know that’s deep but it goes to show that we do matter and what we do with our lives when it comes to the way we treat others matters too.

If you woke up this morning wondering if you matter let me assure you that you do.  Now when you go out, make your life matter to someone else.  Make a difference to the people around you.