Thoughts From An Infrequent Flyer

I am not one that does a lot of travel and I could probably count on two hands how many times I have flown. On my recent travel, I had to fly and I don’t know how some people do it all the time and keep their sanity.

Here are some observations I have about it:

  • Why don’t they board planes from back to front? I know that first class and priority members should get privileges but what good does it do for them to get on the plane first? Why get on first and then have people file by you bumping you with their luggage and waiting for everyone else to board? Boarding first doesn’t make the plane takeoff any faster. Wouldn’t it be MORE of a perk to board the plane last and comfortably get into your first class seat without having to mingle with the riff-raff? And if you get on last, you would be able to get off of the plane first. Airlines need to change this boarding procedure. If you board from the back to the front they could get everyone onboard quicker and takeoff sooner.
  • Why do people immediately jump up when the plane rolls to a stop? Every time I have flown I notice that the second the pilot turns off the seat belt sign that people race to jump up to get their things and stand in the aisle to get off the plane. Then they just stand there impatiently as the crew goes through their procedures to prepare the plan for de-boarding. I think the reason is impatience. People want to get their crap and get off the plane. If I were the airlines I would keep everyone’s seatbelt locked and then release them by rows when it is time to de-board.
  • What’s up with gigantic carry-on luggage? I stood in line and I know that most of these folks exceeded the limits for carry-on. Because most airlines charge for checked baggage people are doing what they can to fit everything in their carry-on. People also don’t want to wait at baggage claim or worry about losing their luggage. I don’t know if people have noticed but the overhead bins have gotten smaller while carry-on luggage has gotten larger.
  • The airlines aren’t helping matters by charging for checked bags. This only encourages people to push the limits with their carry-on. I think airlines should let you check one bag free and then charge for additional checked bags. I think the desire to make more money has clouded their judgment on how to deal with this issue. I noticed that on my last flight that gate attendants were checking bags because overhead bins were already full.
  • Isn’t there a better way to get through this TSA lines without having to almost undress? Okay, this is ridiculous. I’m not hating on TSA agents because most are incredibly patient and just doing their jobs but isn’t there a better way to get through this extremely stressful obstacle course? With all the technology, do we really have to remove our belts and shoes? Good grief, what’s going to happen if some fool puts explosives in their underwear? I won’t fly anymore. I already struggle holding onto my pants without my belt and then I STILL have to raise my hands? Come on, fix this!

Flying is not fun and I’m glad I don’t have to do it much. When my wife and I visited Europe last year we were amazed at their train systems and wished we had trains here. Trains were so much easier to travel and cheaper than flying is here. We learned to master the trains there but I doubt I could ever master air travel here.

I salute those of you who fly for business or leisure. I don’t know how you do it without therapy.

What Is WRONG With People?

d49erparkingWhy is it that when you park in a parking lot with LOTS of parking space that someone decides to park RIGHT next to you?   And then they have to squeeze their way out of their car!

What is wrong with people?

I don’t know.  It left me thinking of other unexplainable things that people do.

  • You pushed the button for the elevator and someone comes up and pushes the SAME button.
  • People talking very loudly on their phones.  Why is it that voice levels are higher when someone is on the phone?
  • New employees who immediately want to take over.
  • People who throw their money or credit card on the register.
  • People who get way too close.
  • People who barrel out of the aisles with their shopping carts without looking.
  • You set up your chairs in the park or on the beach and someone sets up right next to you.

So what IS wrong with people?   Two things:  Selfishness and Impatience.

People want to do what they want to do when they want it.  They do not want to wait on anything or anyone.  We no longer care about the “Golden Rule” or any other rules for that matter.  Instead of doing unto others as you would have them do unto you, we just try to get ours done first.  People are wrapped up in their own little worlds more than ever thanks to our smartphones.  It’s me and my friends list and if you’re not in that list then you are invisible and not worth my time.

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Yep, that’s the world we live in now.

Honestly, I have been walking in the hallway of the building where I walk and people will run over you if you are in their way.  People refuse to move or acknowledge you are there.  It’s crazy.  You begin to think that you are invisible and, sadly, that’s how people see you if you aren’t a member of their little world.

And don’t get me started on people’s use of language.  It is very discouraging how people have a total disregard for others.  It used to be that people were more conscious of their surroundings and courteous of others.  People have no problems rattling off repeated F-bombs without regard to who is around.  In the not so distance past, men would apologize if they accidentally cursed in front of a woman.  Oh, forget that now.  The women are cussing back just as much as the men.  It’s sad really.

Don’t even think of calling someone out about their selfish actions or they will rip you a new one.  It amazes me that you can correct someone for doing wrong yet they fuss you out about it when THEY are the ones in the wrong.  So let’s add prideful to the selfish and impatience of our society now.

So what can we do about this?

Not a damn thing I’m afraid.   I blame smart phones for how bad is has become and the mentality behind it.  The attitudes have gotten worse the minute we have a communication device in our hands instead of the people in front of us.

The only thing we can do is to not let the selfish/impatience/prideful attitudes of others change us.  Sure, we are all selfish at times but not the extreme we see out there today.  The actions of others doesn’t mean we have a right to join them. I do think you still need to pick your battles and stand up for yourself when you think it is necessary.  You also have to be careful with that too because people are so angry and just ready to blow a fuse.

You will end up really disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them.  Not everyone has the same heart as you do.  The important thing is to do our part.  It might not change others but we must not allow the negativity to change us.

 

 

Why Are We So Impatient?

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This weekend I took my few items to the self checkout at a local grocery store. Before I could take my receipt and remove my items, a man came up and began his checkout.  I looked back at him and shook my head in disbelief.  It never phased him at all.

I don’t know if you have noticed but we are an impatient bunch in this world.  You will see it even more evident when you drive on the roadways.  People will take chances they shouldn’t or become very frustrated out of simply being impatient.

What is wrong with us?

I feel badly for anyone who is elderly or handicapped because people will almost run over you to get past or get ahead of the slower ones.  What are we in such a hurry for?

We are impatient because we are selfish.  It’s all about us and our own circle of friends.  If you aren’t a part of that circle then you might as well be invisible.  My wife has nearly been stepped on three times in the last few days because people just don’t think or care to acknowledge that someone might be behind them in line.  Yes, I know.   A line of all things!  Why would anyone be in a line?

Many times when I am in a grocery store buying groceries I will say that people act like they are the only ones in the stores.  Watch them and you will see what I’m talking about.  (Don’t get me started on grocery stores.   That is a post for a later time.)  Sometimes I will just stand for a moment and watch the impatience totally amazed at how blatant it is.  I got on an elevator recently and pushed the button to my floor and another person fussed because I was going to stop them from getting to their floor sooner.  Yes, what?  Ten seconds maybe?  I just looked at them and said nothing.

We are impatient because we live in a day where we want things and want it now.  We don’t want to wait on anything or anyone.  Remember in the old days when we had “dial up” internet?   Yeah, we aren’t even satisfied with the high speeds we have today.  We can get instant news, fast food and even pick up our groceries at the store without even getting out of our car.

I am firmly convinced that because of our impatience that this is the reason for anger in our society.  If we don’t get what we want or we have to wait, then we get angry.  We like to say that we are tolerant of others but, in reality, we really aren’t.  We are only tolerant when it is convenient for us or doesn’t go against us.

So how can we deal with impatience?

  • Have reasonable expectations.  If it’s rush hour, leave in time and be prepared to be inconvenienced.
  • Be a good at waiting.  If you find yourself in a line or forced to wait, use that time to be constructive.  Make notes of things you need to do.  If you can look at your smartphone by all means take advantage of the waiting time.  Deleted old emails or photos.
  • Take slow, deep breaths.  This will help slow down your heart rate and allows your body to take a time-out.
  • You are in control.  You have a choice in how you react in every situation.

Above all things remember the old “Golden Rule” and treat others like you would want to be treated.  What?  Think of others?  But I don’t have time for that!  And that, my friends, is impatience.  THINK of others.  We will all have a chance to be patient or need someone else to be patient with us.