Does God Forget Me Sometimes?


Have you ever been forgotten?

It stings doesn’t it?

We all have experienced the pain of being overlooked, ignored or forgotten at some time in our lives. 

Sometimes I wonder if God does the same thing with us.  I don’t mean that He does it on purpose or that it is a mean thing.  It’s just hard for our minds to comprehend that He could possibly keep track of the billions of people on Earth all at the same time.  

We are told that God is omniscient.  He is supposed to be everywhere at the same time all the time.  But how is that possible?   I know He’s God and all that but don’t you feel like He’s busy somewhere else sometimes?

Well the Bible says this:

“O LORD, you have searched me and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways” (Psalm 139:1-3). 

Seriously?  Be honest with yourself.  How can you be absolutely sure God hasn’t forgotten you?  Maybe He just goes silent for a reason. 

Have you been in those silent places?

We do all the things we are supposed to do that we learned in “How to Be A Christian for Dummies” yet when we pray, nothing changes.  The sick are not healed and no one is converted.  We read the Bible yet we don’t feel God’s presence. We go to church and leave feeling worse than we did when we entered the building.  

I’m not going to give you some easy cliche answer. I will just tell you that it isn’t easy when you feel forgotten by God.  You just have to find your way through it.  That’s the best I can offer you on this subject.   I won’t tell you that God is always with you because, quite honestly, there are times that it seems He isn’t there and I have absolutely no proof that He is.   The only thing I can say is that we look back to the past at when God has been there for us.

In the Bible….

  • All kinds of stuff happened to Job.  People like to say how Job was patient or to have the patience of Job but have you read the story?  He questioned God and he complained.  He didn’t understand what was happening to him at all.
  • Joseph spent years in jail until he was remembered.  There is no record of how he acted during that time except that he did what he could do until the time came.  Sometimes that’s all we can do is to do what we know and what is available to us in our situation until the situation changes.
  • Look at Israel who spent hundreds of years in Egyptian bondage until Moses came along.  Hundreds of years is a long time to be forgotten.  
  • At the cross even Jesus felt that God had forgotten him.  Again, he still went through with what he knew and followed the will of the father even though he prayed for the cup to be passed over him.  

None of us likes to be forgotten and not many of us likes to wait for a long time.  If there’s anything I have learned about God it is that most things will take time.  Very few things are done quickly or according to our timetable.  Yep, that’s the most frustrating part.  I have always said that if I knew how long I was going to go through times of being forgotten that it would make it a little better to take.  

Even when God has forgotten us we still need to press on and do what we know to do and make the best of our situation. Just as when we are forgotten by others, we have to manage the hurt that we feel and make the choice to either get bitter or get better.  

Listening To God:  How does He speak to us today?

There have been numerous books and classes taught on how to listen to God.  I have often said that the main obstacle with prayer is that God doesn’t talk to us like you and I talk to each other – in an audible voice.  I have been puzzled by that many times and no one has been able to adequately explain why.  When you read in the Bible, you will see that he very much spoke to people but that gets explained away by the experts that when Jesus Christ went back to heaven that He sent the Holy Ghost.  Well, aside from those who think the practice of “speaking in tongues” is the way He speaks to us today, the Holy Ghost He sent back to us is also silent as well.

So DOES God – or the Holy Ghost – speak to us really?

He can and he will but once again not in an audible voice.

In my experience, the best way to listen to God is when I am quiet in a quiet place.  Silencing our minds and our environment around us.  Do you know how hard that is to do?  Try sitting in silence.  Our world is obsessed with noise and distractions.  No wonder people have a hard time hearing from God.  Noise is a part of our lives.

The only way we can hear from God is when He has our undivided attention.  Sitting still.  Psalm 46:10 says, “Be still, and know that I am God.”   It is difficult to hear from God when we are going in a million directions and have noise filling our ears.

It would be so easy for us if God spoke to us audibly but when God speaks in the quiet of our souls, it forces us to pay attention.   Being still is a lot of work and requires time and effort on our parts to get to the place where God can speak to us.

So when we get quiet and still, how does God speak?  When you clear your mind and open yourself to want to hear for God he will speak to your mind.  This isn’t something we can do rather flippantly either.  It takes work to separate your own thoughts from God speaking to you.  One rule of thumb to remember is that if you think God is speaking to you and it is against his character then it is not from God.  So what does this mean?  It means it takes practice to discern the voices in your head.  You have to build a relationship with God.  Yes, reading the Bible is a huge part of it but necessary if you are going to learn about God’s character.  You can’t let a preacher, church or writer in a blog tell you this.  You have to experience it yourself.  

In recent years I have gotten more quality time listening to God when I have been sitting quietly in a park or enjoying nature than sitting on a church pew.  I spent years sitting on the pew and have never experienced God like I do now.  I can only speak for myself.  I can’t speak for you.  

It is too easy to constantly ask God for things but don’t stop to listen or be still.  The act of being still and getting quiet is a challenge in our hectic world.  God wants us to be still so that we can have a relationship with him and so that we can have peace and receive guidance.  

Silence scares us.  When we are silent we are often forced to face ourselves and issues we might be avoiding.  We can easily block it out by turning on the television, surfing the Internet or texting.  When we are silent before God, we can turn from us being in control to allowing God to guide us.  It makes room for God’s presence when we aren’t doing all the talking or wanting to have our own way.  

It takes practice.   Isn’t having peace in our lives worth it?