Sticks and Stones

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”

Whoever came up with that saying was a dumb ass.

Sorry but words DO hurt. I don’t think we’ve ever lived in a time where people use words like a weapon as they do today.

Social media has made this even worse. Twitter rants, Facebook posts and text messages are common now. People let loose now instead of thinking about the words they use.

I recently had a comment to a Facebook post from a psychotic family member which was intent on breaking my bones. My first impulse was to fire back with a word attack of my own. I restrained that impulse. They weren’t worth it. I removed any future contact by unfriending common friends. I’m not going to make myself an easy target to this troubled person.

That’s what you have to do to people who want to use words to hurt you. You remove their access to you. There’s no sense in allowing people to abuse you. I have known some folks who actually seem to enjoy that kind of abuse or debating the wordslingers. That’s not me and I won’t tolerate it. If you say something stupid to me, you’re gone.  Save the drama for Hollywood.

The truth is that words do hurt people. I call these people “emotional terrorists” because they will find words until they get the rights ones that will do the most damage. They want to push your button.  Don’t let them find that button.

In the world we live it is so easy for people to say something negative and tear down people instead of being positive and encouraging.

Why is it so hard to use positive words?  Why can’t we think first to encourage people with our words and understanding rather than tear someone down?  There is a desperate need for positive words today.

Negative words aren’t simply sticks and stones, they can be an atomic bomb meant to devastate a person. There’s no need for this.

I have a few things that work for me when someone attempts to hurt me with words:

  1. Consider the source:  Hurting people hurt people.  Whoever is saying hurtful words to you is not an expert on who you are.
  2. Consider the situation:  Sometimes situations bring out the worst in people.
  3. Know who you are:  You know you and hurtful words don’t have to change you.
  4. Remove yourself from it:  Don’t subject yourself to it.  Get away from it.  Unfriend them.  You don’t have to put up with it.

Life is too short to put up with stupid people with hurtful words. You know who you are and one person’s opinion of you doesn’t mean they are right. Don’t waste your time in a word war.

I know. Words still hurt. That’s how we are. We are still human with human emotions and feelings but we also have control over how we respond so that the sticks and stones won’t break us.